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Also, don’t judge the guy for talking dirty to you too. Along the lines of using profanity, some people also like to degrade their partners in bed. That means calling them a bitch, slut, whore, etc. Well, try to stay away from that even if you like it – especially if you don’t know the guy that well who you are talking dirty with.

Do you want to have phone sex with me?

• Recalling a night of pleasure is excellent for moments of writer’s block when you want to send a sexy text but can’t think of what to say.
• The start of a conversation is also a good time to exchange any no-fly trigger words.
• Tell him how hot he looks, or how hot and bothered he makes you feel.
• But once you realize it’s just extra, sexy level of communication with your man it can heat your sexual life up more than you ever imagined.
• You can’t just talk dirty to a man without knowing the psychology behind why it needs to be done.

Talking dirty introduces an additional sense (hearing) to any sexcapade, which stimulates the brain in a way that goes beyond just touch. “Dirty talk makes the sexual interaction a mind and body experience,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs, EdD. Start flirting via naughty text messages to build confidence.

What’s the longest you’ve lasted during sex?

“Use language that comes naturally to you, as opposed to repeating what you have seen in films or read online,” O’Reilly says. “List some words and phrases or even scenarios that turn you on, then ask, ‘Do you know what turns you on? But when you add a little physical pleasure on top of the psychological pleasure?

• It just doesn’t have the same effect—and that’s because hearing certain words or phrases can be a major turn-on.
• At one point he asks a woman to “suck my penis,” which could not be less of a provocative way to initiate a blow job.
• You can either yell or whisper these short sentences to your heart’s content.
• Tits and boobs are both acceptable, but don’t you dare use the c-word (unless your partner has asked you explicitly to do so).
• If you are that timid lover, ask your partner to give you direction on sexy things to say.
• How would it feel if both of you were having an amorous affair?

Talking dirty isn’t something you have to imitate from a porn script, either. In fact, if you watched porn and tried to talk like the women do… this would end up making him feel extremely uncomfortable at worst, and utterly indifferent and confused at best. You might be completely confused and lost about how to “talk dirty,” but for some reason you think “talking dirty” is what men need, secretly crave and desperately want. You’re just starting to build up the excitement, you can feel it grow.

Most people feel completely embarrassed and ridiculous at the thought of trying it, because they’ve never been taught the basic guidelines. Here’s an amazing way to have kinky fun with your partner on the phone or even to move into mind-blowing phone sex. It’s a great way to make a long-distance relationship work, especially when combined with the plethora of incredible sex toys currently available. That’s why I’m going to [insert sexual activity] when you get home.

“Say something… hot!” “Um…ah…vulva?” Remember Ross Geller’s wooden dabble with dirty talk in an early episode of Friends? It denotes a deeply ingrained sexual inhibition among men. Along the same lines, letting someone know that you don’t just want them, you want them right now is hot. You obviously have to respect that just because you want someone now, doesn’t mean they need to have sex with you immediately. But once you’re there, “I need you right now,” works really well.

During your dirty talk, you can tease and excite your man by creating a fantasy for the two of you. However, bear in mind the point earlier about only suggesting things that you are comfortable with and would like to experience with him. If the initiation of dirty talk goes well, then the next issue that comes up is, well, what to say. There are a number of useful methods for making your dirty talk sound sexy. A really good way to practice is while masturbating.